MATI Gumroad - Polycules (November 24th, 2022) 2022-11-24

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Unknown_01: Hello, chat. This is exclusive Thanksgiving Day Gumroad content. And if I sound fatter than usual, it's because I have eaten an obscene amount of food. But that's okay, because it is Thanksgiving. And this is the one day that you're allowed to bend yourself into a state of nausea. For everyone across the country, across the world, the Merrimuts and Exile,

Unknown_01: I'll commit to this annual tradition of engorging on food to give thanks for the things that we have in our life, like food, for instance. I'm sure other people have other things, but in general, food is the primary reason for giving thanks. what may i have eaten you may ask yourself the answer is uh pizza with hollandaise sauce and turkey i ordered this i had no idea what to expect i did not know if there would be like a whole turkey on the pizza or like slices of turkey

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Unknown_01: or like shredded turkey um but there was this is what i got it's uh now i'll get to the other thing but you see the pizza it's got the hollandaise sauce on it it's got the jalapenos on it but underneath the cheese and the uh hollandaise sauce there is chunks of turkey and it was pretty good and i'm probably the only person who has ever ordered this pizza on the face of the planet but that's okay yeah the pie the pie is a pumpkin pie maybe shocked oh my god there are pumpkins in serbia as a matter of fact there are and you can make pumpkin pie out of them um the white stuff is whipped cream it's actually homemade this is very good um i i am bloated and i am uh thankful for the many things that i have to be thankful for this year um

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Unknown_01: Not least of which, of course, is the Gumroad people who have supported my maniacal crusade to dismember the internet by tearing it apart at the seams. Without you guys, things would have been very difficult this year, and thankfully the financial aspects of a lot of my life have been taken care of by the continual support on Gumroad, even though Everything is sort of in disarray right now. The podcast is in limbo in terms of the archives and stuff. All that shit is up in the air, but it'll get solved into the next year as we start to fix things. I'll keep it positive. There's some frustration and some concerns, but for right now, I'm just focusing on what I can take care of. What I can take care of is myself. Actually, you know what? I will.

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Unknown_01: Can I at this moment actually show you guys something that you may or may not find a little bit cute?

Unknown_01: Probably not, huh?

Unknown_01: Oh no, it does work. Fascinating. Okay. Let me just show you this. I actually have like a little game that I'm working on just to like, um, occupy some, some of my, my brain power. And, uh, cause it's like, I'm so fucking sick of working on shit that's driving me crazy here.

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Unknown_01: um it's a it's a mud and it kind of looks like dwarf fortress because dwarf fortress is probably the most well-known mud but those are like actors and they they move around and they should be killing each other but i think i broke that i'm working on it they're actually they have fully simulated bodies that are all set together so my next step will be to make it so that when they fight each other when i fix that body parts will rend and fly across and hopefully hit other actors who are still alive and Injure them as a result of being hit by somebody else's severed arm and I'll continue to add to this mindlessly forever until I forget about it, which will probably be very soon. It's just like a It's like a little thing to work on something to code that's not just fucking bullshit I'm so sick of fucking bullshit

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Unknown_01: Anyways, I do have content, actually, not just me talking to myself. I have reason to be thankful for my many fans and friends who are willing to help me put together some stuff so I can get a first look at it without...

Unknown_01: I have a genuine reaction the first time I read it. And today's subject, today's theme will be polyamory. Sometimes people have a little bit too much to be thankful for, and they cannot keep all their ducks in a row. And the thankfulness flows out of them like tears in the rain. And on to Reddit, where all misery collects, like the lowest point on earth.

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Unknown_01: And I will be reading some of these posts. I have a couple of like two dozen, maybe two dozen posts, varying lengths, two videos.

Unknown_01: And I will be thankful with all of you today that we are not these fucking people with their their complications. I'm sure at least some of you have had relationships and you know how complicated it is to deal with one person and their bullshit. And to have one person deal with your bullshit. Um, so imagine needlessly adding in a multifacetedness to that relationship at the detriment of your other relationship, uh, is, is the common common theme here. No sane people into this. And sometimes it's by coercion. So very sad stuff. Anyways. Uh, we'll, we'll, we'll take, uh, take some joy. I'm shot in Florida knowing that we're not them.

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Unknown_01: So item number one by softad6291.

Unknown_01: I don't want to be in a polyamorous or non-monogamous anymore. My partner does.

Unknown_01: So update on my situation. I am a 21-year-old female, and my partner is a 40-year-old man. Wow, that's already kind of fucked up. We got out of a thruple kind of recently with another woman. She moved out. She was initially his primary partner, and I joined in. Oh, you homewrecking bitch. What comes around goes around.

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Unknown_01: it was my first relationship when I met them at 19 and to be honest I didn't know what I wanted when I met them my mom got cheated on a lot in her life and I think I believe mom can just never be attracted to one woman and be loyal to her I truly believe men cannot be just attracted to one woman and be loyal to her I think subconsciously that's one of the main reasons I joined the couple it's me and him and I have fallen deeper in love than I ever could have imagined I truly love him we live together and every day is amazing My problem is that now, every time he talks about women, another woman, or how he's attracted to her, or hangs out with one of his girl space friends, I slowly feel like I am dying inside. I didn't understand why our ex left from jealousy before now, but I understand better. If I ever watched him fall in love with someone else, it would shatter my heart. There's no way he would ever want to be monogamous again.

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Unknown_01: He's been non-monogamous in poly for 10 years. He was in his last marriage and his relationship before me. I know he would never want to change. It hurts my heart because I love him so much. I want it to go away and just be accepting. Today he told me how hot the girl he hung out with yesterday and how she had a huge butt and she bent over and he was just in awe. I immediately felt insecure about my own body not being enough and went to cry in our room and hid it from him.

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Unknown_01: So this is actually kind of asking for help. How do you not feel insecure when your partner hangs out with more beautiful women?

Unknown_01: Vamps Borens says, packing up and leave, you have your whole life ahead of you to unpack and discover yourself more.

Unknown_01: then she replies to this saying i feel like i drop hints that i'm uncomfortable sometimes one night when we were both drunk and he was on a business trip we were on the phone and he started to talk to me about getting by other men and how he would want to see that i felt uncomfy because while i had agreed to do that before and only now except now i don't and i want to be only with my partner i went along with it and even though it doesn't happen he doesn't seem to notice signs of me being uncomfortable is what she says And the person replying to that says that there's a power imbalance and that she should leave.

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Unknown_01: I mean, obviously there's a power imbalance. He's like a 40-year-old man, and this is like a naive young woman who's having her first relationship. There's like a bunch of tropes in this. Like the age gap is one thing. Reddit trying to destroy a relationship is the other. Whenever you see a Reddit post about a relationship, it doesn't matter what it is. They always want to destroy it because Redditors don't know how to do anything besides destroy anything. um they're incidentally probably correct here um but she's also like she intruded on our relationship and surprise men that cheat on you know their spouse with you are then going to cheat on you with some other person there to save them that's probably younger and more attractive um and the other news the wheel in the sky keeps on turning

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Unknown_01: many different poly tropes in this one one opening post i have a list of of screenshots by name and i just kind of sorted them so there's not like a logic to this in case you're wondering all these posts are written by women and you can tell because uh they're suddenly like uncomfortable and they're very long

Unknown_01: My partner, 25 female, and I, oh, I guess I, I eat my own words immediately. And I, 29-year-old male, are exploring polyamory, and I am scared. Oh, no, are there bees? Do you not know where they're getting their money? Don't be scared. Please give me advice from Jurian Smoothie. We've been together for two and a half years, are currently living together, and have been monogamous this entire time. I think she has always been naturally poly, and as we've gone through life and healed with each other, she has come to realize that poly is her natural way of life.

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Unknown_01: a whore slut this guy's like obviously i mean he's on reddit but it's like this guy exudes weakness and she's just like yeah fuck this guy fuck this guy i'm with my own free bitch i have always felt more monogamous but wanted to keep an open mind We began therapy to see how we could make this work, and it goes pretty well. We eventually experiment with dating apps, and eventually she goes on a date. I ask her to take it slow, and she respects that, but it all comes to a halt for me one night when she asked me if it was okay if she spent the night at a date's place. Turns out she wasn't feeling well and wanted to get some rest, but I had assumed that she was taking a step with her partner that I was just not ready for.

Unknown_01: So she's lying to him. If she's staying over at this guy's house, she's fucking him. Oh, I've got such a tummy ache. I just can't drive back. Ooh, I have to stay here. Long story short, I have a meltdown. We come to realize that I am not okay with Polly, as I realize it really hurts me to see her with another partner, to know she was falling for someone, to think about them having sexual relationships. And it sucks for me not to really find any dates.

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Unknown_01: But I am also starting to realize that I may not be currently interested in finding dates. So we eventually decided it would be best to call things off with her current partners. She was currently getting to know two people and had not even much as kissed me. Yeah, right. But she did express she was falling for one of them. She says she feels as if something beautiful was taken from her. And here's that making me feel really hurt to know that I played a part in that.

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Unknown_01: Now we're at a very painful and awkward standstill. She expressed that she got a taste of Polly and realized that it is indeed her calling and to love and abundance. To fuck a bunch of dudes that aren't you.

Unknown_01: She cannot stand how it's hurting me and is conflicting with her personal wants and needs and balancing it. Wants and needs. Multiple dicks is her need. It's a physiological need. It's like that pyramid, that meme pyramid. Physiological needs at the very bottom. Multiple dicks at once.

Unknown_01: Not connected to you in any way, shape, or form.

Unknown_01: It's been about four days since the meltdown and us calling a pause on Polly. And every day it feels that one or both of us are hurting. We are having a lot of trouble feeling like we are getting what we want escalated.

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Unknown_01: checking out this sub we're working with our therapist never get a therapist these days jesus christ i never heard a therapist like our therapist told us that we were being fucking retards and that if we're not committed to each other we should just break up like that that person would be like disbarred like their medical license would be rejected like i can't believe you that's like that's like victim blaming um

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Unknown_01: no replies on this one but this guy is just a pushover he's kind of pathetic i wonder if it's like a throwaway let me check real quick durian smoothie oh a login page just to see his profile okay oh this is like his real account

Unknown_07: oh he's like he has an instagram and a youtube what the fuck i i have to know what this guy looks like 30m ready to get his bachelor's of science and computer science but don't know where to start anyone have advice so he's like a programmer oh he's deleted his youtube channel what about his soundcloud

Unknown_01: No SoundCloud also deleted. He must've gotten like bullied fucking hardcore. He's deleted his Instagram too.

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Unknown_01: Oh, his last post was like, how long?

Unknown_01: Four days ago. He's still posting.

Unknown_01: Need to help programming Excel to read a client sheet and mark their schedule in a calendar. Okay. So this guy is like, he has a, he's getting a bachelor's of science at computer science and he doesn't know how to like do shit in Excel.

Unknown_07: That's funny. He's like a gamer. Promote your music. He tries to make hip-hop.

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Unknown_07: Audio engineer.

Unknown_01: Wow, this guy's a fucking loser.

Unknown_01: soundcloud rapper literal literal soundcloud rapper who doesn't know how to who wants to now switch uh careers in his 30s to computer science and can't figure out how to program an excel spreadsheet and she's like why does my girlfriend want to every other guy geez what a big question there buddy mentally healthy partners from imac freak seven hours ago does anyone else find it difficult to find partners who are mentally healthy

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Unknown_01: As in, they have emotional intelligence, have gone to therapy, worked through their traumas, know how to communicate without being reactive, are able to be positive, hopeful, confident in life, and have found some inner peace. Figured out their job situation to the point of being content. It seems now that I have as a filter for dating that's basically no one left. Is it just rare?

Unknown_01: Honey, sweetie child, stalker girl, listen here. When you find somebody who meets that criterion, you don't want to try and find a second person. You've found somebody who you can have a relationship with long-term. You're saying, hmm, why is it that my monogamous criterion for someone I can actually build a future with is not meeting any people in this noncommittal net? I wonder. What a mystery.

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Unknown_01: this is in self polyamory from venting again and again struggling with partner using monogamous language and phrases both I 20 am and my boyfriend 19 oh this is going to be a fucking banger of two years are poly but do not have any other partners social anxiety covid paranoia and we're both decently busy if this is like a tree falls thing if you're polyamorous but you don't fuck anybody else are you really polyamorous

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Unknown_01: Or what if you're if a tree falls in the woods, nobody's around to hear it doesn't make a sound if you are polyamorous, but you are monogamous.

Unknown_01: Practically, they're really polyamorous. It's like how Brianna Lou doesn't want to come out as a transsexual. So he just says that he's a bisexual to include himself in the LGBTQ plus still. It's like that.

Unknown_01: um do not have any other partners but have been open with each other about being poly since the beginning my issue is he uses phrase like you're my favorite you're my person and i've casually said you know you might want to retire that phrase once you get another partner and he basically responded that he won't and that he'll love them but i'll always be quote unquote his person i brought it up a few times since with the same response he also gets disappointed when i don't say it back it makes me feel bad for his future partners Because while we are hierarchical, we live together, I still don't think it would feel good to hear the favoritism so clearly. Should I let this go as it's an issue for him and his other relationships? Should I find a different way to explain my feelings about this? Am I overreacting? Any insight is appreciated. Thanks, y'all.

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Unknown_01: that's some next level cucking. It's like, I mean, my role, and I've said this before, but I'll repeat myself when, as far as gays go, I don't have like, there's not like a tier list of like, um, if you are like married and like are totally monogamous and gay and they're, you're both white, then it's like the Beth kind of gay relationship. Like, no, it doesn't matter if you're like totally like essentially just like a parallel relationship or if you're a polyamorous interracial gender bending, you know, poly cool or whatever. It's all it's all gay. It's all pointless bullshit. It's just like a way to occupy your time between your job at that point. It's not really like a relationship.

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Unknown_01: This guy's like, Oh no, my boyfriend theoretically is polyamorous and I want him to call me less special things because if he ever has other people in his life, then I don't want them to feel left out. Like what kind of logic is that? How, how badly were you fucking traumatized when that's your concern?

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Unknown_01: Okay, actually, this one I may have to sort correctly. There's a Troon 2, so I'm going to put that behind a Troon 1. I'll get back to that.

Unknown_01: LetThemHuman says, I'm a fucking idiot. Do I need to avoid kissing my GF until I can get tested for STDs? With my girlfriend's full knowledge, I suck to do...

Unknown_01: with my girlfriend's full knowledge I sucked a dude's dick and it was fun and all he had a condom on the whole time but in the end he released on my body and I was curious so I tasted it wow what the fuck's the point of the condom then dude you're just making it like less good for him why the fuck did I taste it what was the point of the no shit so this is this an STD risk god this makes me want to gag reading it just like it's so fucking nauseating

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Unknown_01: So this STD risk, he had no reason to think he had an STD. I don't know if I can be trusted because, you know, I don't know him that well. Can I not kiss my girlfriend now? We aren't going to be sexually active anyways, so...

Unknown_01: We're not going to be sexually active anyways. What the fuck is the point of these relationships? I'm in a relationship with a woman, but we don't fuck, we don't kiss, and I suck dudes' dicks.

Unknown_01: Obviously, you need to get the fuck over this quote-unquote relationship thing. You are not bisexual. You are just gay. You do not need a beard hanging around to make things look official. Just go suck all the dick you want, my dude.

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Unknown_01: Please don't rip me apart in the comments, even if I deserve it. I already told my girlfriend.

Unknown_01: over less speech 48 89 in polyamory r for r what the fuck is r for r u polyamory r for r um dating for polyamory oh so this is like redditor for redditor that's right r for r means like a dating sub okay 32, 33, MF4R.

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Unknown_01: So this is a couple of people in their early 30s looking for another Redditor to join their polycule in British Columbia.

Unknown_01: D's, oh, Dom Sub, big D, little S, Dom Sub. Dom Sub looking for more breeders.

Unknown_01: Okay, just bought a small 60 acre farm in the British Columbia interior. Wife is pregnant with her first. We have an eight bedroom house and I work away from home 30 plus hours at a time. We want more wives, people to help on the farm, take care of the many kids and share a loving relationship with each other.

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Unknown_01: there is only one room for one dom that is me i am well enough off to take care of the financial obligations to my subs if you want to be independent that is great i will support any career you want if you join the household we are all open we're open to all types women female to male female slash b i don't know what the fuck b means i prefer if you were fertile and able willing to have children but it takes all types to make a family wow that is fucked up

Unknown_01: I am a nudist. You don't have to be. Also does free use and expect to be used regularly if I am home. I encourage physical relationships between my subs as long as it doesn't go against a direct request by me.

0:21:27
Unknown_01: Low maintenance and low drama. If you like to stream and yell your way through problems, we aren't going to click. If you can be rational, chill, and emotional. If you do what the fuck, if you do what I want, basically. If you do what I want, you can hang out here. But if you want to argue with me, you can fuck off. She wants at least five kids of her own. I would love to build a second house just for our children. We love redheads and goth GF types. I love Asians of all types. This is like the libertarian archetype.

0:21:59
Unknown_01: If you are interested in being a submissive, free-use breeder in a harem of beautiful, loving people, send me a DM.

Unknown_01: Don't call me daddy, that's for our kids to do. Edit, not a cult.

Unknown_01: This has, you know, this was negatively received. Zero upvotes, so at least, at most, a zero score and 92 replies.

Unknown_01: That's funny.

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Unknown_01: That's just because gay people hate children. That's the main issue here.

Unknown_01: This is true in one dot PNG, which is the prequel to the message I moved up before.

Unknown_01: Understanding a conflict between my partner and meta.

Unknown_01: I do not know what a meta is by Nina Jada tricks, Jade tricks.

Unknown_01: nina says hi my meta is a male straight and poly my partner is a female and bisexual i'm female lesbian so trans my partner and meta have been together for a decade and are married and living together he didn't follow the one over two plus seven dating rule so there are some unhealthy power dynamics there oh

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Unknown_01: You know, I'm a big fan of the 1 over 2 plus 7 dating rule, but when it's like... Like, that's what they're saying with the 20 and the 40-year-olds, that, oh, he has all the power, so that's, like, not okay.

Unknown_01: That's weird. It's weird for, like, these fucking creeps to dictate what is and is not acceptable. Like, they have their own code of, like, random bullshit rules that...

Unknown_07: That I don't really understand.

Unknown_07: Me and my partner are in a long-distance relationship but meet every few weeks.

Unknown_01: And this weekend we had a four-way on Pride with a female and trans female lesbian couple who were very adorable. And we were thinking of seeing them again sometime. So he likes to fuck truants is basically the thing. when my partner went back and told my meta he lost his shit and they've been fighting over it for two days now one because he said he didn't check in with her before having a foursome which might be understandable maybe but the second oh he's gonna be transphobic the second reason blew my mind off he is okay with her seeing other women but no one with a penis this made me feel and also my partner feel that he was very sexist and homophobic no transphobic transphobic is the word we also realize that he doesn't even think my relationship with my partner is a serious thing because we are both women and i don't have a penis to make him feel insecure his response to her about this is that i really don't know what fucking gender the author is i'm assuming that they're post-op response to her is that he respects our relationship which i now know is a big lie they are fighting because she had sex with someone with a penis uh he has a no problem going out with women and having sex with his penis and my partner didn't even have sex with a penis But because the girl had one on her body my meta is insecure. That is not equality I think I feel like a big joke to him now that he used me to make his wife feel better Okay, so this is like a natal woman It was like a retard This is this is like a big ball of text. This woman is retarded everyone involved in this is fucking retarded and I wish them I wish them misery

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Unknown_01: This is the update.

Unknown_01: From Mina Jadix, two days after the first post, misogynistic meta fighting after me and my partner slept with a trans woman.

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Unknown_01: Two days ago, my partner said that the meta wants her not to sleep with anybody. I said it was convenient for him. He could sleep with all the women and was letting you sleep with women. But once you started sleeping with people with penises, people with penises, he was telling you to stop. She said she wants to stop dating other people. I said, okay, today my partner and today my meta is not misogynistic. She's insecure and had a male ego, and she doesn't like sleeping with men anyways.

Unknown_01: He said that he is worried about her and is not safe and that he is not a misogynist, just worrying about her safety. I told her I don't believe that, and she said, you don't have to believe it. They're still discussing the trans woman situation. I told her this is a deal breaker for me. She is so gullible in believing whatever excuses he's making up, and I told her that, and she doesn't want to do it.

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Unknown_01: So she chose him. Wow.

Unknown_01: I can't believe that the woman chose a monogamous relationship with a man over having a polyamorous foursome with a lesbian and three trannies. Or two trannies, I guess.

Unknown_01: What do you think I should do? I am so confused. I feel so betrayed and amused because he let me stay in a relationship with me because I didn't have a penis. He was using me to distract her while he does what he wants.

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Unknown_01: Also, she is choosing to be with a man who is a transphobic person and is twisting things around, going to a discussion about men. And she believes discussing stuff will help him make one page his mind about transphobia.

Unknown_01: I will delete this post later because my partner knows my account. I apologize for being a coward.

Unknown_01: Wow.

Unknown_01: It's funny how much more complicated all these people's lives are.

Unknown_01: Oh, this is great.

Unknown_01: Um, Zerkyo 14 says zero dates after 12 months of E and M. Um, I do not know what that is.

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Unknown_07: Polyamorous glossary.

Unknown_07: Oh, poly ready for polyamory.com.

Unknown_01: Wonderful.

Unknown_01: They do not have E and M. Ethical non-monogamy.

Unknown_07: Different word for polyamory.

Unknown_01: It's a weird one. Why don't you just call it polyamory?

Unknown_07: Why E and M? It sounds like a drug or some kind of dance.

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Unknown_07: So, as the title suggests, my fiancé, 26F and I, 25M, have been poly for 12 months.

Unknown_01: My partner, who is bi, is only looking for female dates and has been going on regular dates, around three dates every two weeks, which some do end with hookups since we both joined Tinder, Bumble, OkCupid, and even Field. Me, on the other hand, I have had zero dates and a handful of matches, which led nowhere and is kind of destroying my self-worth. Now, I do know that online dating is a nightmare for men. My partner and I found each other on Tinder four years ago, though.

0:28:48
Unknown_01: But I am way too shy to actually talk to people or would just not get the hint. People who openly flirt with me and say that they want to pick them up, and I would no act on ruining my chance completely. And you also can't fucking write. I would no act on it. Oh, okay, not act on it, okay.

Unknown_01: In November 2021, I went to the grocery after I colored my hair. Oh, my God.

Unknown_01: None of these people are fucking normal. Add this guy to the list of mentally unhealthy people. Is this guy having a... I really want some pictures of these people. Jerky014, show me what your colored hair looks like, boyo. I want to see the blue.

0:29:24
Unknown_07: He has a bunny rabbit.

Unknown_07: this guy has like a bunny rabbit and no kids safe moon what the fuck is safe moon safe moon is a human focused technology and innovation industry business expanding blockchain technology oh safe moon a fucking scam pajit coin

0:30:03
Unknown_01: that's funny rlsd marvel studios shiba inu coin so this got our bunnies our rabbits that's funny

Unknown_01: So he's like, he's like in this relationship. He's a total fucking loser. And then his girlfriend is like going on dates. So like, oh my God, I'm married to this fucking retard. And he spends all his money on safe moon and Shiba Inu token. And he just plays with a bunny and he never wants to have kids. And I fucked up my whole life. I fucked up my whole life. And then the girl they're dating is just like a butch lesbian. He's like, oh yeah, that's why I don't fuck men because, because they're losers.

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Unknown_01: hmm very funny recently my partner has also introduced me uh to a friend group of hers which she met two months ago all female friends which i get along with and like on an acquaintance level besides one none of them know we are e and m though i asserted to develop a crush on the girl in the group who is single as she likes the same kind of music movies tv shows and scotch like i do oh if you dye your hair blue if you fucking love marvel if you don't intend to you can still be a man if you enjoy a good scotch that is that is the missing piece of the consumerist puzzle like all that shit's gay and not masculine at all but you don't have to go out and do anything manly if you just get that good scotch that that really ties everything together knowing my background's fucked up knowing what beer to drink and what scotch to drink and how to pair that with food that is what makes a man i told my partner about this asking her opinion to reach out and the no to as the friendship is relatively new and she doesn't want to make it awkward which realistically makes sense

0:31:55
Unknown_01: I did buy Tumblr Gold and Bumble Premium once and changed my location for three or four days at a time to see if just Edinburgh... Ha! Ha ha! He's Scottish. Imagine not being able to fuck English chicks. You gotta be ugly if you don't meet the standard for English women.

Unknown_01: Edinburgh, where I currently live, so it sucks that there's no chance up here. Does anyone know how I can get myself out of this slump? Any advice is appreciated.

Unknown_01: uh so now i have a video tiktok let's see this point of view you're my husband coming home from a date with another woman oh hi you're home um no i absolutely was not watching six episodes of our show without you did you bring me the

0:32:48
Unknown_05: How was your day? Did you tell her I said hi? Did you tell her that I really love that picture of her in that black dress on Instagram with her dog?

Unknown_01: It sounds so passive-aggressive.

Unknown_05: Does she have bigger boobs than me? Nice.

Unknown_05: Will you rub my feet?

Unknown_05: Please? You had sex. Oh my god, watch this part.

Unknown_04: It turns out it's not really Lucifer. I mean...

Unknown_01: There's so much going on with this that it kind of makes me uncomfortable.

0:33:22
Unknown_01: Like I'm wondering between the two of them, whose idea was this? You know what I mean? Like, cause it's creepy either way. It's either the guy's like, I want to film you and you're going to be like real happy that I fucked some other bitch. All right. Or which is like creepy and like weird. And it would make sense why she's overreacting. Cause it sounds really sarcastic and like not sincere at all. But then the inverse is also really creepy and weird, where she's like, I want you to film for my TikTok my reaction to you coming home after you have sex so I can show everyone how totally cool I am with it I am. Like, what is the point here? Are you, like, trying to show for your poly shit? Is it, like... I feel like I'm watching...

0:33:56
Unknown_01: How do I put this? I feel like I am at my aunt's house and I'm a little kid again and it's Christmas time and my aunt and my uncle are fighting and it's like a really personal relationship argument that I should not be witnessing or hearing and it's very awkward and I'm sitting there and there's like passive-aggressive snide comments that I don't fully understand, but I know they have some kind of deeper emotional value to each other than it does to me, and it makes it super heavy awkward. That's the kind of vibe, like awkward Christmas vibe that I'm getting from this where it's like, I'm witnessing two people who are locked at the horns in the most passive-aggressive battle to the death ever put on film. And somehow this has ended up in front of me and I've watched it. It's very strange.

0:34:38
Unknown_01: Back on the Reddit, Motherhood Heathen, or rpolyemory, I assume, says, no sex now. I have a question, but let me give you some context. Female wrote this. So let's start off with, I'm nine months pregnant, called it. Due in less than two weeks, my husband decided to have sex with his girlfriend for the first time. Our rule was condoms with everyone but each other. Come to find out, he didn't use a condom, and I can't risk anything, especially being pregnant. I'm asking here because I can't figure it out anywhere else. How long do I... I have to wait before I can have sex with him again. I was hoping to help labor come that way, but now I can't. She was supposed to be STD free, but I don't have it on paper. I don't know if I believe her.

0:35:24
Unknown_01: I think, lady, that your priorities are a little bit fucked up. I think that if your reaction to this news is, oh, my God, I can't have sex until, like, six weeks from now, you may be focusing on the wrong things. This woman is like a coomer or something. I don't know what the fuck's wrong with her. Oh, there's a Troon 3. So this is a follow-up to the other follow-up about the evil transphobic guy.

0:36:03
Unknown_01: update my girlfriend chose her misogynistic partner today i asked her to read these posts and she did because the post explained what i wanted to say better than i could explain it she says she wants a six month break because i'm codependent which i am not according to her she and her partner have a secure foundation unlike me and her so she is taking a break with me instead of her partner As one person in the comments said, the blame has been shifted onto me. Instead of taking a break from her misogynistic bigot, she threw me away. I told her a six-month break literally means a breakup, and she loves me too. She just wants to tell herself that it's not a break. That's a break, not a breakup. So after the first few months of no contact, she can easily tell... Can...

0:36:40
Unknown_01: She can over me easily. That's my thought. She didn't say that. Oh, get over me easy, probably. I told her we don't want to meet much anyways. We are a long-distance relationship. She lives with her husband. I tried to convince her to see the truth. She didn't. I know there's nothing much to do about it anyways, but what can I do next?

0:37:13
Unknown_01: Thank you for your continuous support, Reddit.

Unknown_07: So I guess she, yeah, like I said, she was forced to choose between this deranged freak couple and their transgender like fuck buddies or like a man.

Unknown_01: And even though the guy is not faithful, she's going to choose, you know, the normality over that shit.

0:37:47
Unknown_01: Posted by SpicyPepper3000, dealing with feelings of jealousy and insecurity. My partner, a 35-year-old male, and I, a 29-year-old female, are discussing opening up our relationship, but I'm having a lot of trouble with the feelings of jealousy and insecurity. I have been in therapy for several years and am currently working through anxiety attachment, which doesn't always mesh well with an E&M relationship. How do you work through those feelings? How do you handle it when your partner goes out on a date with someone? My fear is I'll just be sitting at home worrying with jealous thoughts running through my mind the entire time. We have an incredible relationship with wonderful communication. Love each other deeply. We are discussing E&M because we both want the freedom to be able to get all of our sexual needs met. Me wanting to explore with women and him wanting to have multiple sexual partners. But I'm worried my insecurities and fears will just get in the way. Any advice and our stories of success would be most welcome.

0:38:23
Unknown_01: Folk Punk Slut, wonderful name, and replied to her saying that she might be jealous, says, so don't do that then. Use the time he's out on dates to do things you enjoy doing. Go out with girlfriends, take class, learning you're interested in, binge watch TV shows or movies that you wouldn't be watching if you were around.

0:38:58
Unknown_01: App Carbo replies saying, facts, you got to unpack the why you feel that way. It's not a competition. Everyone is different.

Unknown_01: Yeah, bro. When he's out fucking other women, just like, play Pokemon Go. You know, all that other shit that you want to do now that you're at home and you don't have any kids to take care of and you don't have a career.

Unknown_01: Bulk, punk, slut, polyam, RA, queer, non-monotheistic, child-free, leftist, anarcho-socialist, intersection envy that your mom warned you about if she knew any of those terms. Mods, solo poly, mod of solo poly, and adult self-harm. Wow. So this person has no long-term relationship, fucks whoever they want in different drama circles, probably tries to ruin them for fun, and is also a cutter.

0:39:40
Unknown_01: a hundred thousand karma i have to know what this person looks like please please have a picture somewhere uh all of his posts are in and i'm so pissed the only pictures of people on their timeline is like

0:40:16
Unknown_01: Pictures of like, I don't even know, like punk groups. This guy, like Pigeon Pits Lomes playing in a backyard show at Langsteen Stoop Fest. And that's obviously like a truant.

Unknown_07: Oh my God, this guy's pictures are so fucking crazy.

Unknown_01: I cannot believe these are like real people. These are like comics. Just your classic Old Testament abomination, defiance, Ohio. Food, not bombs. Free soup for the revolution. Mischief, brew. And then fall in love, not in line with like a heart over the Antifa flags.

0:40:50
Unknown_01: I just can't believe it.

Unknown_01: April Clark at Autogenophiles.

Unknown_01: Wow, verify blue check mark. 20,000 like tweet. My wife is pissed at me because I discovered I'm poly. You cheated on me. I'm literally coming out to you as NKS, but okay.

Unknown_01: I'm literally marginalized, but go off about how I'm an unfaithful bitch. Wow, this dude has some fucking issues. What the fuck is NKS? NKS.

0:41:25
Unknown_07: Polyamory NKS.

Unknown_07: I don't know.

Unknown_07: When I type in polyamory NKS on Google, I get this tweet.

Unknown_01: There's a third post to this that comes up in Google search. This isn't bait. This is real. Does anyone have a good resource for poly people? How do I get more pussy? How do I protect myself from bullying? Thanks in advance. What the fuck?

0:41:59
Unknown_07: This guy is like insane.

Unknown_07: What the fuck does NKS mean? His domain name is girl God show.

Unknown_07: What does it mean?

Unknown_07: Nobody knows what NKS means.

0:42:32
Unknown_07: Wow. Okay. Very mentally ill person. Why are they verified? So just like a thing.

Unknown_01: I don't know. I'm afraid to open this link, but I'm going to.

Unknown_01: Girl God plays chess. Girl God is April Clark and Grace Freud. Catch them on tour this fall.

Unknown_01: This person's a singer. They sing Elysian Theater. Girl God at Christmas.

Unknown_01: No, Elysian Theater is the name of the venue that they're performing at. Girl God Christmas at the Elysian. It's fucking bizarre.

0:43:04
Unknown_07: Really fucking bizarre, chat.

Unknown_07: Here's a comic.

Unknown_01: To be more specific, here are the five styles in non-monogamy with feminist principles at their core that the mainstream either ignores or don't take seriously. So pay attention. These are feminist non-monogamy cycles. Number one, styles that center queer love. My husband's boyfriend of seven years is no less primary than I am, says the black woman.

0:43:40
Unknown_01: So I guess the Asian guy that's taller than her and his Arab boyfriend, they're equals, basically. Number two, styles that challenge gender norms. So this is meant to look like a female to male, I guess. I'm a homemaker while my genderqueer partner works to support us both. Then the guy says, that includes me. I'm partnered with both of them.

Unknown_01: Oh, so there's like a woman that works all day and provides money so that she can breed and he can feed himself. I think that's what's going on. It's very empowering. That woman is extremely empowered over there. Number three.

0:44:20
Unknown_01: Styles that don't police sexual or romantic desire. Then Shaggy from Scooby-Doo is saying, it's not to me how many people she falls in love with. And then there is a hippie woman who looks kind of Jewish because of that hair and a black woman saying, we're both in love, but we don't want to have sex. And then there's like a cripple woman off to the side in the wheelchair saying, I'm aromantic and plan to spend the rest of my life with her.

0:44:53
Unknown_01: shaggy is being cucked by the the jew woman who is in love with a black woman but they don't have sex because that's like oogly but then this woman is aromantic but so that doesn't even make any goddamn sense because number if they're aromantic that means that they're they're having sex but she can't feel anything because she's crippled this is like this is madness this is literally madness number four styles that allow alternatives to the nuclear family i gave birth to them i helped create them so that's an interracial couple right off the bat this is the only like white woman in this comic appears to be um in an interracial relationship which is pretty standard quote um so then their mixed race child says we always eat dinner together but then there's another couple off on the side that says i tuck them into bed every night and i taught them how to read

Unknown_01: like hell i feel nauseous thinking that these people try to like this is like a fetish lifestyle this is like pornography to them they can jerk off to this like oh i want to be like in a polycule and i want like this mixed race hobgoblin baby being taught how to do things by eight different people that you can't even fucking recognize so it's so erotic to me and some sound number five

0:46:08
Unknown_01: Styles that encourage autonomy. The black woman is saying, I want to be together forever, so as long as we're never stopping each other from following, our hearts are hurting each other. And then the fat woman that she's with says, likewise, if you happen to leave me after falling for someone new, I trust you enough to know it's because our needs don't match anymore. I know you wouldn't use me.

Unknown_01: Yeah, this is like fucked up. A man drew this.

Unknown_07: A really mentally ill man drew this.

0:46:49
Unknown_01: I dig crazy chicks says, am I being paranoid or is my partner 35M prone to stay mad at me 32F longer than his GF 30F?

Unknown_01: Have them crazy chicks working out for you, girl. This polycule and structure has been going on for a few months. All three of us are very new to polyamory and we are still slowly unlearning every mononormative instinct, especially during conflict. Last night, my partner and I went out to my friend's birthday dinner while his girlfriend had work but was going to catch up. The venue was situated in a pretty sketchy neighborhood. Racist. So finding a safe parking spot was crucial and dangerous. The night goes on, girlfriend shows up, we all talk and hang out. I was inebriated, partner was okay, and girlfriend didn't drink.

0:47:31
Unknown_01: um the partner is the male he had me wait in the car while he walked her to hers which i didn't know how far it was so there i was drunk high anxious and afraid i had a panic attack that i tried to ride out on my own but i just kept getting worse so i called him and begged him to come back they both came back for me walked me around to help me get to my baseline he left me in the car again to walk her back He came back to drive us home, and he was just cold. He was saying things like he felt unsafe in a locked car. Nobody I've had wait in the car has ever been like this. I felt like my experience and the way I felt wasn't valid. Maybe he's right. This morning, I went on my morning walk, and I got thinking about how it seems to me Now, whenever there was something that was done that pissed him off, I often wait a lot longer for him to be out of angry mindset with his girlfriend. He's more than willing to calmly talk about it. I had a mental health crisis. Partner was nice about it. And his girlfriend was outside when we were blah, blah, blah.

0:48:40
Unknown_01: Okay, so he was planning on having sex. He might have actually been in the process of having sex or like getting his dick wet when she had the panic attack. She had the panic attack. She's not saying it in this post, but 100% she had a panic attack because she suddenly got really jealous and she just doesn't want to write that. So she had like a, either she actually had a panic attack and called him up or she just like faked the panic attack and he's acting cold to her because she cock blocked him and he's pissed off about it. Very obvious what's going on and how these relationships clash excruciatingly with the quote-unquote mononormative instincts that they're fighting against.

0:49:22
Unknown_07: Oh boy.

Unknown_01: So here's a picture montage of one of these happy couples.

Unknown_01: Went to see Rammstein, Foxborough. Oh, I guess it's not German. It's just Rammstein. Rammstein, Foxborough, Boston, North American Stadium, with my husband, boyfriend, brother-in-law, and future sister-in-law. It was amazing. But I gotta say, I was having a massive sapphic panic. All the women there, the few that were, were so good-looking. all the goth metal fashion was amazing and my jaw was on the ground because of some of these looks here's mine it was fun but nowhere near as hot as what i saw yesterday i wore the shorts for tailgating then change into the longer outfit so he's in i wore the shorts for tailgating

0:49:53
Unknown_01: The guy is the one saying that he had a sapphic panic and wanted to be the sexy girls at the metal goth GF concert with Ramstein.

Unknown_01: Wow.

Unknown_01: Good luck with that, buddy.

Unknown_01: That man's got some soft eyes. Is that what soft eyes look like? Hey, he's got... This other guy has a Charmander shirt on. Look at this.

Unknown_07: These people are...

Unknown_07: Or a Charizard.

0:50:48
Unknown_07: But a healthy couple.

Unknown_07: Here's a second relationship pick.

Unknown_01: Pure happiness in this polydynamic.

Unknown_01: We got a Mexican dude, two fat chicks, and then that guy who looks like... He looks like the dude from the World Economic Forum. You will owe nothing and you'll be happy. Just with his hair shaved.

Unknown_01: I want to see if they post anything else to lip fest one.

0:51:19
Unknown_01: Uh, they have deleted their account.

Unknown_01: Whoops.

Unknown_01: Oh, here's another family montage picture. I guess I didn't shuffle these too well. Our family. We like to have a full house. Merry Christmas and happy holidays to everyone. And it's a bunch of fat people. I was some children around. Wonderful.

Unknown_01: So it's two fat dudes, their fat mom, and then they're all like, and they've got animals, I guess. That's nice. Oh, this is all children related. Oh, fuck this.

Unknown_01: Triad babies in historical costumes. We did hand-sewn outfits for our baby. We wanted a practice piece, so my wife and I constructed shifts for our 8 and 14 months old. I guess that's the same people. No, it's a different couple. I don't know how that's polyamory related.

0:51:53
Unknown_01: Our nine-year-old daughter labeled our sandwiches for a road trip to take to her to play hockey. She's such a simple picture. It makes my heart so happy. Anyone who says poly is bad for kids doesn't understand there's no such thing as having too many people who love and care for them.

Unknown_01: Aurora, Daddy, Bella, Mama Mel, and Mommy. I can't wait for the studies that come out and explain how these kids become serial killers.

0:52:34
Unknown_01: Takes a lot of energy, good energy, worthy energy to be authentically yourself, to love who you are, and to raise children, to be smart and even better than we are. All good energy. I'll never be anything but true to myself. I hope you find in all of you to be the same. I guess that's two gay guys and three kids.

Unknown_07: Cool.

Unknown_07: Expanded our polycule by six ounces, or six pounds, 12 ounces.

Unknown_01: That appears to be four adults and one baby. I censored the baby's face so the Reddit op blurred the... I censored the baby's face because the Reddit OP blurred the adult's faces but not the baby. What the fuck?

0:53:14
Unknown_01: And then two queer moms who accidentally dressed up with very similar flannel and jeans to go to the parent-teacher. Whoops, in case anyone was wondering, our children are awesome and the school is amazing and super kind and open-minded. Missing our partner who couldn't slip away from work.

Unknown_01: My heart aches.

Unknown_01: No, this appears to be a... This is actually an old meme. I remember saying this. This is from Tumblr way back when. What the fuck is a monopoly relationship?

0:53:56
Unknown_01: Okay, this is actually kind of funny, but you have to study it for a while.

Unknown_01: So you got Emma, Alex, and Lily co-parenting, cohabitating, and nesting partners together. But Lily is also in a sexual partnership with Sherman, who is kind of out on his own. He used to be in a relationship with Kim Chi, who is in a sexual partnership also with Vash.

Unknown_01: The funniest one... to me then like down here you got tulsi and aziz and vazda and sam and they're just kind of like doing their own thing what is the the catch with these they're just a normal relationship why isn't it a polycule what the fuck does vazda and sam have to do with each other if they're just monogamous with each other uh okay my favorite one is that the

0:54:52
Unknown_01: uh the one the obvious tranny named soliloquy who has a solo poly thing going on which means that they don't have like a relationship they just fuck um they have like had a former relationship with eight different people around them so they're just they've gone through everybody on this polycule and none of them want to stay around with them

Unknown_01: Which is pretty funny. If you ask me. Baxter. That is a female to male non-binary for sure. For sure. Baxter. I want like the most cute boy name ever. And I want to wear like a little bow tie. I want to be like a teen boy. I want to be Baxter.

Unknown_01: Polly Emery from Coffee, Polly, and Kitten says, my partner didn't see he had genital warts before we had sex. Really confused about how to move forward. I, a 26-year-old female, have been dating a guy, 23-year-old male, for a few months, and it's moved really quickly. I fell in love with him quickly, and it's easy to see a future together. I felt a little slight of trust...

0:56:25
Unknown_01: ultimately i decided it was comfortable with the risk and accepted that he had made an honest mistake he felt awful about it and realized that he should have told me i got tested a week or so a week or so later and asked the nurse about it she told me how he could check himself for warts in the shower with soapy hands i told my partner that and he said to make sure he checks himself frequently fast forward his partner

Unknown_01: and said that he should make sure to... So she omits the gender of the partner. Fast forward to a couple days ago, we had sex before bed, and then in the morning I was looking at his junk and saw a wart. After having sex the night before, I'd accepted that I probably contracted it. I don't remember getting the vaccine. I just feel like my trust is so broken with him as well that he wasn't checking... Um...

0:57:21
Unknown_07: He's just upset. This is like normal dating drama, I guess.

Unknown_01: By the way, in case you're wondering, women mostly get AIDS from quote-unquote bisexual men. Bisexual guy will fuck a guy in the butt, get AIDS, and then transmit it to his wife. And it's extra fun for her if she didn't even know that he was out and about looking for the pussy.

Unknown_01: This is my second video that I have, video.webm.

Unknown_04: Hi, my name is Anna. I am dating everybody in the polycule. I am married to Jake. We've been together for eight years and married for three. I'm dating Spencer. We've been together for three and a half and I am dating Ellie and we've been together just over a month now. I am bisexual and my pronouns are she, her. I'm also in charge of this account and in general.

0:57:53
Unknown_00: Hi, I'm Jake. I'm married to Anna, and she's currently my only partner. I am demiromantic, which means I only get feelings for people, like romantic feelings for people, if I've been around them for... I feel like I've watched this and been traumatized by it in the past.

Unknown_01: I think I know what the joke is with this. It's not a joke, but I know what the funny element is already. I don't know where the fuck I've seen this before. I hope I haven't reviewed this on a previous stream.

0:58:24
Unknown_00: for a while and get to know them really well and i'm technically pansexual but i like the bi colors more so i call myself bisexual my pronouns are he they hi i'm ellie i'm dating anna i'm not currently dating anybody else um i'm some flavor of queer and my pronouns are she her

0:58:57
Unknown_02: I'm Spencer. I'm only dating Anna. Um, I'm bi, but, like, bi.

Unknown_01: Who does this guy remind me of? This guy is a fucking serial killer or some shit.

Unknown_01: Like, the way that he's, like, leaning forward. Like, look at this. This guy is a threat to human life.

Unknown_02: Um, I'm bi, but, like, bi. Um, my pronouns are they, them. And, uh, my gender is... Wait.

Unknown_02: Wait, I thought your pronouns were he they this guy is like A retarded little boy.

0:59:34
Unknown_01: He's got like autism or something He's developmentally just late delayed and anna is like coaching him like grooming like a retarded person what to say I don't know.

Unknown_03: Uh

Unknown_02: My gender is to be determined.

Unknown_01: Dating Anna. So that's Anna.

Unknown_01: That's dating Anna. That's dating Anna. That's dating Anna. So none of them date anybody else. This woman who has bags under her eyes because she is without a soul and she can only sustain her life force by draining other people. Unfortunately for Spencer, he's the most drained. She has sucked the most life force out of him. And he will be disposed of soon because they're diminishing returns and draining him.

1:00:21
Unknown_01: she's basically like coaching these three autistics into what to say it's very sad um is this poly or am i being insecure throw away my as my husband is my main apologies i'm that i'm on a cell phone as well you're she was in a real fucking rush to write this

1:00:54
Unknown_01: I, a 42-year-old female, have been with my 40-year-old husband since 2004, completely monogamous. So, 18 years together.

Unknown_01: Recently, in the last two months, my husband has been talking about opening the marriage up to explore other people. He suggested a threesome with a 24-year-old female co-worker I just met as training wheels on doing this. I suggested waiting therapy and reading prescribed literature on opening slash swinging slash poly before doing anything serious. He's having none of it. He says he's in love with her and that he should be allowed to pursue her if I'm not interested. He insists that he doesn't need to follow advice from other people and that he can blaze his own path to happiness. We are getting into fights constantly now because I've begun reading the stickies in the books and see pitfalls. I've asked the questions that the book says to ask before starting. stis overnights serious feels weekends etc and it always ends in a fight he says i'm jealous and insecure and that if i talk about it i'm willing it into existence it's to the point where i'm afraid to even open my mouth to talk to him because he says i'm always starting things

1:02:12
Unknown_01: I feel like this isn't Polly and this isn't anything good, but maybe I'm insecure and that if I go through with the threesome or let him pursue her, it'll work itself out. He thinks that we'll be a happy couple plus one if I could just get over my jealousy and that we'll go on dates with all three of us. I need a voice. I know you can love multiple people. I know sex is awesome and fun and new relationships are exciting, but I feel like I'm the bad guy controlling and holding him down from his happiness and his and he agrees.

Unknown_01: So what happens we don't have kids I'm like, I don't know. It's hard to say for sure like I'm sure this guy gave out signs that he was like a fucking asshole But I really feel like you're in your 40s now and you haven't had kids and now you're like, well What do we do with all of our time? Am I really just gonna have sex with the same person for the rest of my fucking life? I'm gonna be 50 soon and then nobody will want to fuck me. I i'm still 40 and i have money so i can get 20 year olds right now um but you you don't have the you probably don't have those sluts if you have kids like i talked to ricada and ricada is like

1:02:58
Unknown_01: He says he doesn't have time to be depressed or to worry about stuff because he's got shit to do. If you've got shit to do, the devil finds time for idle hands. It's a very real expression. The more bored and unproductive you are, the more likely you are to indulge in things or to fantasize about things that are stupid and counterproductive.

1:03:37
Unknown_01: But he's done a very good job of gaslighting, literally gaslighting this woman into thinking she's crazy for not wanting to fuck around. Like the most like intrinsic part of like female relationship stuff. I don't want my husband to fuck a woman half my age. Like, oh, am I the bad guy for thinking that?

Unknown_01: No, probably not.

Unknown_01: Overcoming slash reprogramming mononymous. Let's see. This is like, I need help breaking my instincts to, to be jealous because I have to, everything must be sacrificed on the altar of progress.

1:04:15
Unknown_01: Hello. So I, a 37 year old female, I'm in two wonderful relationships, one married and one single with a 38 year old man and a 29 year old man.

Unknown_01: I am single.

Unknown_01: live alone okay so there's a married man and a single man that's eight years younger than her but she is almost 40 and she is single and she lives alone she says i'm very new to poly but enjoy the ability to connect with both of these very different men they are both aware and it's all ethical i have read the ethical slots oh

1:04:51
Unknown_01: And I'm currently reading Attached. So I'm trying to do the work but still have moments that I slip into a monogamous, possessive state of mind. I know these are toxic thoughts to have and I feel messing with my ability to be happy with what I have. I just worry about these intrusive thoughts and was hoping for some guidance. Too long didn't read book slash podcast recommendations for overcoming monogamous dating mentality. Not just how to be poly. But how to get away from the programming of traditional monogamy.

1:05:23
Unknown_01: This woman is like. How do I fuck my whole life up? I don't want to fuck my whole life up. I want to make everything about my life worse than it has to be. It's like asking like.

Unknown_01: I'm so used to having a roof over my head. I need to find a way to... Now that the World Economic Forum has taken over the world and we own nothing and we are happy, I must get away from my domicile-oriented programming. I want to know how to be happy in my cardboard box in my state-sponsored dormitory. i don't get over this it's like you should be angry you shouldn't be getting over it it's amazing that we that that our cult are like our cult our societal cult is so strong that people can just do whatever can can be convinced to eat whatever shit they want to

1:05:55
Unknown_01: OK Zucchini 8056 says my wife's body count is a big turn on for me. It has no idea what it is, but we know it's in the hundreds. She lied about it when we first met because of the societal stigma involved, and she likely thought it would freak me out.

Unknown_01: I found it a big turn on when I found out she has had tons of very hot stories. But that said, it's not without its problems. We have sex multiple times a day, and it's become clear she is a sex addict. It's also clear that it's because of some childhood trauma. I almost said, well, she's been molested after I read sex addict. I thought, you know, that's like, I don't know. I don't want to bring up child rape in the middle of my fun Thanksgiving Day review. And then next sentence is like, yeah, she got molested.

1:06:43
Unknown_01: I'm surprised you didn't just say like, yeah, that turns me on too. Like, I want to hear all her stories. Tell me the one about uncle, the uncle Pete too. I want to know about uncle Pete.

Unknown_01: I'm sure I'm, I'm getting, I'm getting too close to making assumptions about this guy, but.

1:07:17
Unknown_01: I don't know. I don't think it stops at like, oh, I want to hear all your sexy, fun body count stories after you were 16. Only after 16. That's the cutoff. I can't get into it unless you're the age of majority in this country.

Unknown_01: Also, I found out that she is cheating on me with multiple guys and has been cheating on me our entire relationship. It's been a lot to deal with. She's also an alcoholic and unreliable. So while I found her crazy high body count hot, it's attached to a lot of issues that are less cool. So be careful what you wish for.

1:07:50
Unknown_01: this guy is just like it's just explaining how he fucked up his entire life in like as concise a way as possible You know, I was doing pretty well, but then I thought the idea of a bank robbery would be super cool, and then I held up a bank, and then I found out that banks have security features, and now I've been shot twice, and I don't have any feeling below my spine, and I'm going to jail, and I don't have any money for an attorney, so I'm representing myself, and it's just not going well. It's just a total fucking nightmare.

1:08:26
Unknown_01: Be careful what you wish for.

Unknown_01: oh geez there's an update available for my photoshop how exciting primary bought metamore bigger engagement what the did i just read primary bought metamore bigger engagement ring that does not sound like an english sentence that sounds like the seed the mnemonic code for like a bitcoin wallet or something that's like a recovery phrase that's not a english language primary as in my main partner bought

1:09:04
Unknown_01: I don't know what the fuck a metamor is, a bigger engagement ring. Throw away for obvious reasons. I, 25, female to male, non-binary, am experiencing jealousy that I'm not sure how to get past.

Unknown_01: My primary, a 34-year-old man of four years, recently got engaged to my metamor. I am incredibly happy for them. They seem like an amazing couple and have gotten along well for the past eight months.

Unknown_01: have to look up what the metal more is okay creative cloud i get it bro god damn it let me just mute system sounds then i guess piece of yet metamor metamor is a polyamorous relationship one's partner with whom one is not directly involved so this is just like his other his side hoe

1:09:58
Unknown_01: She's three years younger, which is why the older one is jealous.

Unknown_01: She and I are great friends. However, my primary brought her a ring that can tell is far more expensive than mine and has a bigger stone. I'm happy for them, but how do I get over this jealousy? This didn't start with the ring. He claims he's being fair and that he buys one of us the gifts. He buys both of us gifts. But I can clearly tell that her gifts are always more thoughtful or more expensive. Or sometimes the gifts he gives me are really gifts for both of us. Like when he buys gifts for my pets that she helped me pick the pet store and comes over to visit all the time.

Unknown_01: What makes this worse is that I have a long history of various undiagnosed dependency disorders. My therapist once described the separation anxiety when my partner leaves as comparable to her two-year-old child on her first day of preschool. I also have reason to believe my metamor has narcissism. a cystic personality disorder and this is just feeding her sense of self-importance. I really don't like drama, but my relationships always seem to be very dramatic and I'm wondering how to bring this up to my partners in a way that's constructive for everyone involved.

1:10:35
Unknown_01: So that woman obviously gets off on being the homewrecker, and she probably deliberately requests that she get nicer things than the other woman. If she is narcissistic, which I can believe, she just enjoys fucking this up. It's erotic to her. It's fun. It's exciting. As for her, she's gaslit herself by modern-day psychology into thinking that the jealousy that I feel knowing that my husband's going off to fuck some side hoe that's younger than me and give her more shit than he gives me. is uh separation anxiety like a fucking dog or something it's crazy i honestly i'm so glad that i never went to a therapist or anything i never went to a therapist and never took psychiatric drugs obviously that field of medicine is just bullshit

1:11:14
Unknown_01: This is a form, it appears, like non-escalator relationship menu marked as must have, like to have, maybe, and off limits. This is a tool meant as a discussion aid to allow individuals in a relationship to identify and discuss their personal desires and relationship expectations. Add, alter, or remove menu items as needed to make the tool work for you and your relationships.

1:11:52
Unknown_01: Remember that this is a discussion aid and only the start of a conversation. Revisit the menu as needed when circumstances or relationships change. So this is like your F-list fetish categories.

Unknown_07: Commitment.

1:12:31
Unknown_07: Non-escalator relationship menu.

Unknown_07: Very strange.

Unknown_07: Emotional intimacy. No, do not say you love me.

Unknown_07: Very gotten.

Unknown_01: You have to fill out a form to figure out what the fuck you want out of a relationship. You've overcomplicated your life.

Unknown_01: Conflict with partner's best friend's wife over Polly. This is, again, a sentence that does not sound like English. So she's trying to say, or whatever. Is he serious is the username, so I'm guessing this is a real woman. The name is, I have a conflict with my partner's best friend's wife over our polyamorous relationship. You're missing like 40 fucking words in that title.

1:13:06
Unknown_01: She says...

Unknown_01: If I am being childish, please, for the love of God, put me on blast. My partner was married when we first started dating, but divorced within a few months. She realized she is vanilla and monogamous. He is absolutely neither of those. The issue is his best friend has an issue with Polly, and his wife has an even bigger issue with Polly and divorce.

1:13:39
Unknown_01: oh no he has a trad friend as a couple oh no they're gonna up everything she apparently holds the sanctity of marriage above all else that's like a like a meme quote she apparently holds the sanctity of marriage above all else and then like rolling eye emojis oh my god imagine having principles vomit face vomit face

1:14:18
Unknown_01: Back in February, we visited his home for me to meet his family, friends, and Matt and Sarah, best friend and wife, said they were not comfortable meeting me. Okay, fine, whatever. I understand Polly isn't easy for everyone to digest. She was comfortable.

Unknown_01: Sorry, she was uncomfortable with us dating while he was married. She didn't like he was divorced, etc., etc.

Unknown_01: We didn't hang out with him, which really hurt my partner's feelings, but he got over it.

Unknown_01: We are planning on going back for Thanksgiving. Hey, happy Thanksgiving. I hope it all worked out. Matt says he would love to meet me. Finally, he apologized for taking so long to come along and he misses my best friend. Sarah, however, still has no desire and is still hung up on the divorce and what she considers cheating. At this point, I told my partner, even if she changes her mind, I have no desire to meet her anymore. He's obviously not pleased because he'd like for us to at least be in the same room. He'd like to be able to hang out at each other's houses and see his nephew and, you know, do normal best friend things and have his partner there sometimes. I just feel like this is a dumb hill for her to die on. And honestly, why I'm the one she doesn't want to meet is insane to me because I'm not the one who was married and had another partner and got divorced. So why is my partner not the one that she has all these feelings towards? That is true.

1:15:38
Unknown_01: Women.

Unknown_01: You have to learn to stop gunning for the other women. You have to also hate the men who are the cheaters.

Unknown_01: I'm mostly just ranting, but I'm being an asshole for deciding this is someone I never want to meet or be around. I feel like this will make my partner's relationship with his best friend more difficult, and I'm sorry for that. Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. She is hosting a big 30th B-Day party in January, and there was implication that she expected him to attend and leave me at home when everyone else in the group is allowed to bring their partner. Well, whatever.

1:16:15
Unknown_01: I mean, it does sound like he cheated on her with that woman. So I guess the female perspective is like, I don't want this homewrecker anywhere near my husband or my family.

Unknown_07: Because if they're polyamorous, there's nothing stopping her from fucking my husband too, right?

Unknown_01: Um, Kelly loves cows. Oh, me too, Kelly. Uh, she says my husband wants Polly. I do not. I, a 31 year old female and my husband, a 29 year old male of 12 years, I assume of relationship.

1:16:47
Unknown_01: He wants to venture off and share his love with other ladies, and I just can't do open relationships. I get too emotionally jealous. Maybe it's because I can't control what my husband does or how he talks to the other women. I don't know. I tell him that I don't want an open relationship. I don't care to have another sexual romantic relationship with someone else, but I also don't want to hurt his feelings.

1:17:20
Unknown_01: That's what's really important here, Kelly.

Unknown_01: God, just people need to get over that shit. Hurt feelings. It's okay to make someone cry. Sometimes they really fucking deserve it, Kelly.

Unknown_01: Because I know he wants to try poly. I've asked him if my... I asked him if my sex work has triggered him into wanting to do this. She's a whore.

Unknown_01: She's a whore. That's why he... Oh, it is her fault. Okay, now it makes sense. I asked if my sex work has triggered him into wanting to do this, to which he said no. He tells me that he loves me, and he tells me he's not going anywhere without me. Also says I'm the most beautiful, kind-hearted woman he's ever been with, and he wants to be able to share me with the world. Ugh. Oh, gross. He wants to be able to share me with the world because the world needs more people like me. He's blowing so much smoke up your ass. It's incredible. But when I tell him, no, he tries to persuade me again. I just wish he would have told me he wanted to try poly before talking about having children and having a month old baby.

1:18:33
Unknown_01: So they have a one-month-old in the... How do you do that? How do you have a one-month-old baby and have anything else on your mind besides the fucking baby screaming all the time? Like, how do you... At what point... Maybe it's because of the screaming. Like, God, I wish I was at this house fucking everybody. But, I mean, I can't imagine that either. That's ridiculous.

Unknown_01: Um...

Unknown_01: He wants to discuss everything again when I'm not having my raging hormonal post-pregnancy stage, but I don't feel like I won't change my mind. I do want to say, before pregnancy, I was kind of on board in bringing in another person in our relationship, to which we started to do with this lady from work. But when I found out I was pregnant, I didn't care to continue. See, that's what I mean. What I mean, once the nest building kicks in, your fucking orient changes.

1:19:11
Unknown_01: You don't think about, oh, I'm bored. Let's bring in Susie from work to complicate our lives. It's like, oh, I have a kid now. I have shit to do. He didn't ask me if I was okay. Wait, wait, wait. I just skipped something.

Unknown_01: I didn't care to continue with doing so I told him this, but he continued to proceed doing things with the lady from work. He did ask me if it was okay if he touched her butt or see her boobs. I said yes because I didn't want to disappoint him, but my feelings got in the way and I became depressed and said that I was losing my husband. I honestly don't know what to do. I feel stuck. What a fucked up relationship.

1:19:47
Unknown_01: Number one, stop being a whore. Number two, you shouldn't have dated a fucking retard for 12 years, I guess. Basically, undo the entire second half of your life.

Unknown_01: Go back in time and just don't be retarded this time. That's my suggestion.

Unknown_01: Prussian Kaiser.

Unknown_01: That's what that says. So Prussian cut. So the, the Kaiser, the Kaiser of Prussia is like, uh, I need help with my polyamorous relationship. I'm just imagining like a fat Redditor and a pickle hub. Um, Yeah.

1:20:29
Unknown_01: Bro, you got to storm into Poland, and you got to get that bussy, okay? You can't just be sitting there in Konigsberg like, hmm, this polyamorous, you know, in your kingdom, your imperial palace, sitting there with your pickle hobble and thinking, like, I got to get that bussy. You got to march in. It doesn't matter if Poland's in the way. It doesn't matter if France is in the way. You got to march in and get the bussy.

1:21:04
Unknown_01: I'm afraid I won't be able to overcome the jealousy and I'll end up hurting them. I think part of the problem is my history with jealousy. Right before this one, I had a relationship where I was cheated on, but even before that, I was in plenty of friendships where I felt inadequate. I'm also a pretty anxious person in general, diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. Nobody is breaking the rules. I've been open about how I feel. I just haven't found a solution yet that doesn't involve limiting their time together. I was hoping if someone was blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Drastical conflict 737 replies saying you need treatment and therapy You are unable to recognize that your relationship with each of them is separate and different from their Relationship with each other and you are punishing them for your bad behavior by your past partner work on all of this with your therapist I'm pretty sure therapist is like like a word for groomer like you need you need proper indoctrination these

1:21:48
Unknown_01: mono mono mono amorous heteronormative quote-unquote instincts that you're feeling can be gently washed out of your mind with an iron brush and a pressure washer we can blow that dirt right out of your gray mass and you can think rationally for once

1:22:36
Unknown_01: I do want to see what the Preuss and Kaiser is on Twitter. I bet you this motherfucker plays some Hoey 4.

Unknown_01: Come on, Hoey 4. I want to see some map games when I open this Reddit account.

Unknown_01: He has a furry avatar. So far, so good. His description is pander. I don't know what the fuck that means. He plays Destiny, the video game, not the streamer.

Unknown_01: um he posts on a reddit called ambien which is things you did on ambien chop off all your hair this is a sub for all ambien involve creative submissions sharing stories experiences genuine questions we're starting a coherent conversation on the topic being on ambien and post a dumb meme or any other form of shit post has nothing to do with the all above will result in ban

1:23:36
Unknown_01: I knew my mom had friends from work who did Ambien, and they said they sleepwalked really bad. It's crazy that this is like a sub.

Unknown_07: Unfortunately, he appears to have deleted all his polyamorous things, and he is now a pheromane on Overwatch.

Unknown_07: base connect no he's just like super obsessed with destiny still oh okay so he's a furry that plays destiny that's what is coming out of here and finally oh this is the that was the last one this is just the stickers wow sorry i guess we end here with the person kaizo

1:24:32
Unknown_01: that's it um thank you thank you for everything uh big thank you to all the peoples who have enabled me as i said before um i've had a very nice christmas with my disgusting schlott pizza i hope or not christmas it's not christmas yet what's the other one thanksgiving christmas season starts tomorrow for all you euros out there who don't know that we have to wait until after thanksgiving to celebrate christmas season uh but do have a great christmas season i hope that your family if you're around them have been tolerable this year i hope you've managed to avoid fighting about politics as is tradition and um i'll see you when i see you bye